What We Do
We provide safe spaces where men struggling with compulsive porn use and other addictions can experience hope, healing, and move towards thriving in who they really are in Christ. We do this through a variety of ways:
Individuals and Couples Coaching
Ellen is a Life Coach, finishing the certification process with ICF (International Coaching Federation). She is passionate about serving individuals and couples who feel like they are not thriving in ALL of life. Ellen loves to empower people to discover their unique design and help them to dream and set and reach their goals. As a sidebar, Ellen is John’s greatest coach!
For Couples who are dating, engaged, newly married or married (for a long time), she coaches them with John towards discovering their unique personality mix and dreaming about where they want to be next in their relationship. Then she often helps them in setting goals together to reach as a team where their relationship may be a little (or very much) stuck. We believe it’s ok to be where you are at and let’s talk about and help you move towards where you want to be. Read more about Couples Coaching on Ellen’s site.
Recovery Groups for Men
John leads Recovery Groups for men, with a special passion for men 40 and under who are Digital Natives. But any man of any age who already feels more naturally connected to others through digital means between face to face meetings is going to feel most comfortable in one of the groups that John leads. John leads most groups online through video conferencing or in a “hybrid” video/in person format.
Leadership Development and Mentoring
John develops Recovery Group Leaders who are Emotional and Sexual Recovery “Pastors” of the hearts of the men around them. Also, we are always looking for partners who would collaborate towards raising up leaders together. You don’t need a counseling degree to help others get lasting freedom. There are few places to find great training to be a great leader. Let’s work together to build up and raise up leaders who will leave lasting eternal legacies and will walk together in the midst of an unhealthy world, so as to be a Lighthouse in the midst of the storm.
We are originally from the northeast, but currently living in Orlando, Florida with our three kiddos!
Both of us have a story of redemption and meaningful, intentional healing of past wounds. It is through this emotional, and spiritual transformation that we have experienced much healing in the deepest spaces of our lives. While we still feel like a messy work in progress in many ways, we also have a sense of excitement, knowing our stories can be used now. We feel honored that Jesus would choose to use the pain and joys of our story for His glory.
Our life experiences include some time in the business world as an engineer and an accountant and more than a decade of experience in student ministry with a large christian non-profit organization. We see how the Lord has been with us and directing us. We are excited to be partners in life and on mission together in this new endeavor!
Ellen has developed a passion to come alongside someone who is dreaming about the future asking questions like, “What is my design in Christ for this chapter in my life?”, “Now that I have all this freedom, what’s next, Lord?” and “Who am I really underneath this addiction?” Ellen will step along side John in helping men to get freedom from sex/porn/work addiction to help them thrive in discovering their design in Christ. Together, we envision a process of deep, heart discipleship that we believe all humanity — those who are churched, those who don’t go to church, and those are are “dechurched” — should have a chance to experience in Christ through his Body and his Gospel for the Nations.
John’s story includes coping with life through workaholism and other addictions. It was in the fall of 2014 that John began connecting with a small group of men who shared similar addiction struggles. As he walked with them through a recovery process developed by Pure Desire Ministries, he gained a lot of healing both emotionally, sexually, and spiritually many areas of his life, including some he didn’t even know were broken. After three years he began to see life so differently and we began dreaming about how the Lord might use this part of our story to help other men to get freedom from addiction and wholeness in Christ.
Partnership and Giving
We are SO grateful that God has called us to this ministry and yet we could not do it without the financial partnership and sacrificial giving of so many amazing people and churches we are partnered with in this work. But our team isn’t yet grown to full size! We can’t do all that we are called to do without a full team. Please consider joining with us!
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